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The constant urge to do something new in ur life goes on after getting failure in a terrible way. Life takes a dig and questions ur maturity after facing failures. We get tons of challenges to face, the first and foremost is to face ourselves and regain the courage to restart from zero. The second is to process our surrounding negativity and develop ignoring power at great extent which is damn difficult to be honest. The first two steps itself is a great challenging task to be honest and its my personal experience. Anyhow we overcome these two steps, the next step is to see our own friends doing good for their career when here we have to make compromises with ourselves and our career choices. Next step is to face distrust from our own family, they start thinking that we are good for nothing. Especially when the case is with a girl! People say that india is forwarding in direction of women empowerment but is that really true? Women empowerment starts from our house itself but we spot rare houses where actually people support women empowerment. Being a girl it becomes difficult to even go for higher studies because in our country according to people out there who’s opinions are never asked say that ultimate goal of a girl is to get married so she needs to learn house chores and cooking too. No one notices that that girl is trying to restart from zero after facing failure in terrible way. If a girl fails the only option left is to get married!!!!!

Overcoming all this hurdles even if a girl starts again from zero, all she gets is criticism, taunts, unwanted opinions. So half of the confidence drives away listening to nonsense stuff. Now in case there is some strong willpower girl then she’ll overcome that too. So now the major point comes and that is support! After listening to so much non sense stuff she somehow goes on to restart after getting an opportunity but the support she should get is nil.

Ok we can’t expect support from outsiders but at least we can ask for one from our family at least. But no we don’t get that too! Reason is that ultimately we have to get married so what’s the need to do something different…. We won’t ask for support and that’s ok but when we aren’t asking anything we aren’t ready to accept criticism and demotivation from the people we asked for support. On other hand while a girl is trying to regrow, she has to listen from the people who have been very important and they make you count the list of favours which were actually their duty to do. What can one do in such situation! To be honest I’ll cry because all these things give way too much pressure on a normal human brain. Constant urge to try to manage everything gives tons of irresistible stress.

In case with god’s grace we overcome all of this (to be honest damn difficult to overcome) then we face some new villians!

Welcome to the real world, it sucks and you are not gonna love it everytime! There is a saying in hindi: “aurat hi aurat ki dushman hoti hai.” Nothings wrong in this idiom also, when all the females are facing same issue over the round then why not support each other! But no no no we can’t do that because of a reason. The reason is jealousy. No woman understands that if one woman is succeeding she is inspiring thousands of other women to take a step ahead and work for their own betterment. Jealousy, back bitching, pulling leg to failure, this all is main vocation of all women out there. Women can’t see other woman happy! Why so? Why not to overcome this toxic trait and step ahead for supporting each other in all times… I’ve seen everywhere that when we, being woman think of ourselves and try to grow on our own, everyone around us start judging us, like literally don’t these people have any work! We keep seeking help then we are weak, we continue our growth on our own then we are inappropriate and giving wrong ideas around, we concentrate on ourselves then we are called selfish. Why so? I don’t know about anyone else but I haven’t seen any woman supporting another woman to grow except our moms obviously. At least think either way that if you aren’t able to achieve something in life, help some other woman to conquer. If we try this out definitely world will be a better place for women.

I heard somewhere a beautiful saying which I don’t remember exactly but I do remember somewhat

Last but not the least, I’ve written this all because I’ve been seeing this at many places and recently had a small experience of getting stopped by woman herself, and also whatever scenarios I’ve written aren’t related to me but I’ve seen this happening with my very close best friend which irked me to write this!

Thank you for taking out time to read my thoughts!

Grateful…